We all do it. We receive an invitation to something exciting and immediately think “Eek, I need to go shopping to buy something fabulous!” You then purchase said fabulous outfit (often spending a small fortune that was supposed to cover next week’s rent), wear it that one time and then shove it in the wardrobe with all of the other one-offs gathering dust.
And the cycle continues.
I’m THE WORST offender when it comes to this habit. Well, I was. Back in my prime shopaholic days, I can barely think of an event I showed up at without a new outfit. If you don’t believe me, check out the wardrobe tidy I did recently. It was epic.
C’mon, what’s wrong with a little shopping?
Let me first state the blindingly obvious:
If you don’t have Beyonce’s bank balance, it is neither smart nor practical to buy a new outfit every time you have something you want to look hot for. Believe it or not, there is a life out there for you that doesn’t involve living paycheck to paycheck!
But let’s get philosophical here and talk about why this kind of behaviour is wrong on a deeper level.
1. L-A-Z-Y, you ain’t got no alibi!
If you have a wardrobe full of beautiful clothes, buying something new is plain ol’ lazy. It means you don’t have to think or be creative; you just whip out that credit card and have that outfit handed to you on a silver platter (or David Jones bag). C’mon guys, outfit planning isn’t like cleaning or 5000 word essays – it’s FUN and there’s no reason you should avoid it.
Picking an outfit off the rack is a bit yawn inducing when you compare it to the challenge of piecing something together from your own wardrobe and giving it an exciting new spin. Don’t let a mannequin tell you what to wear – dig deep into your style senses and figure out how you want to look and feel. Whether you choose something that normally gathers dust, or a trusty favourite and give it a twist – give yourself a creative challenge. You’ll feel so much prouder of yourself by showing up in something created by YOU.
3. Insecure much?
I’ll be honest… I think I used shopping as a way to compensate for a lack of confidence in my appearance (and social status) in the past. Wearing something brand new and a tad expensive was like being gifted with a superpower for the night. You walk with your head held high and enjoy all of the, “ooh, love your dress!” comments. I get it.
But don’t let yourself off the hook that easy. That outfit is a band-aid and what you need is a cure. Why aren’t you feeling confident enough to rock something pre-worn?
Are you feeling flabby?
Are you hanging out with snobs?
Are you having issues in your relationship?
Do you simply not know how to dress in a flattering way?
ALL of these problems can be fixed or at least improved. So if you know there’s something wrong, take the time to do quick – albeit slightly uncomfortable – self-assessment and create an action plan to get over this.
Now, I’m not saying you stop shopping.
Ohhh no, I love shopping – don’t get me wrong. The adjustment we need to make is knowing that there’s a time and place for wardrobe updates. And ideally, they should be planned for ahead of time, taking into account your available budget and what you already own. These spur of the moment splurges do neither.
Plus, if you get really clever with piecing together the core items of your outfit from home (aka the expensive bits), then you can free up some budget for fun accessory shopping which will a) give you that shopping spree high and b) take your outfit to the next level and make it feel like new. It’s a win-win!
And since I practice what I preach…
I’m very proud to say that at my first official photoshoot for the blog, I only used clothing I already owned. And despite some trepidation about whether they’d work, I’m thrilled with the result. A big reason for that is the clothes were clearly “me” unlike when you rip outfits off item-for-item after seeing them in a shop or catalogue.
I realise this could be a big step for some of you (it was for me) so I will endeavour to provide as much inspiration and advice as I can in Sure, Why Not? Style. If you have a specific request, please be sure to leave a comment or email me. I’d love to hear from you!
As always, thanks for reading! x